Boundaries in a christian dating relationship
Especially in circles for Christian singles, “boundaries” almost always means “physical limits”. If there’s anything that could have protected us a little more from heartbreak, it’s probably a different set of Christian dating boundaries. It’s such a broad subject, and everyone seems to have their own special interpretation of it.
But, just as importantly, it means emotional boundaries that “teach people who we are and how we would like to be handled in relationships” (Eddins p. A sense of boundaries in a dating relationship cannot only make you feel more confident about how things are going, they can help you make quicker decisions to all those questions I mentioned above.
Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.
Maybe it’s just the rebel in me, but when people talk about boundaries in relationships, my natural inclination is to cringe. I’m my own boss.” But when we understand that boundaries are put in place to protect us, that it’s God’s way to protect our heart, soul, and body, it’s a game-changer. God gives us guidelines in our relationships, not so He can be this cosmic killjoy, but so He can protect us.
Once you’ve gotten to the point that you know you’re attracted to someone, and you’ve started dating, then it’s time to think about setting some boundaries. God’s very clear on how we are to approach purity, before and after marriage.